Brand New Book

disconnected-cover-conceptWe see it everywhere: at the park, in restaurants, and inside our homes and cars—kids connected to handheld devices and disconnected from the world around them. According to the latest research, the average thirteen-year-old spends eight hours per day, seven days a week, glued to a screen. Yes, this is problematic, but for every problem there is a solution.

In Disconnected, renowned psychotherapist and longtime school counselor Tom Kersting explores the device-dependent world our children live in and how it is impacting their mental and emotional well-being. Research shows that too much time in the cyber world is re-wiring kids’ brains, affecting their ability to flourish in the real world as anxiety, depression, and attention issues soar.

Thankfully, it is not too late to save our children. Kersting provides simple strategies to help reduce screen time as well as a host of meditative and mindfulness techniques to help our kids reclaim their brains, and their lives.
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Positive Parenting

Positive Parenting

Here is an article on Kars 4 Kids website that I contributed to.

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Recent Lecture on technology hurting our kids

http://www.librarymedia.net/cap

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Technology is Ruining Our Children

Here is the link to a recent article written by the Bergen Record about my recent lecture called:

Digitally Distracted

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15 Sites and Apps Kids are Heading to Beyond Facebook

Click below to read about 15 Sites and APPS that kids are going to beyond Facebook.  There is some very important stuff that parents need to know.

15 Sites and Apps

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Should you get your preschooler an ipad?

Every parent on this planet should go to www.commonsensemedia.com and sign up.  Common Sense Media helps families make smart media choices. They offer the largest, most trusted library of independent age-based and educational ratings and reviews for movies, games, apps, TV shows, websites, books, and music.  Their Parent Concerns and Parent Blog help families understand and navigate the problems and possibilities of raising children in the digital age.

I read a post earlier today from Common Sense Media regarding ipad’s or other tablets for kids – Click here to read.  The question in the article is whether or not you should get one of these devices for your child.  I didn’t have to think too long about this one.  My answer is a resounding NO…  The American Academy of Pediatrics agrees with me.  They recommend  ZERO hours per day of any screen time for kids ages 0-2 and ONE hour per day of screen time for kids ages 3-5.  And you want to decide whether or not to buy your toddler an ipad?

As many of you know, I lecture extensively on the topic of technology and its affects on kids emotional intelligence, coping skills, focus and attention; how it’s delaying development, creating an epidemic of obesity and leading to a substantial increase in mental health problems.  Oh, and I can’t forget the sleep deprivation part.   I think most parents are aware of this stuff but they kind of fluff it off as being benign.  In fact, at a recent lecture I presented I asked the audience of 200 fifth and sixth grade parents to raise their hands if they thought it was a good idea to allow their child to play the video game, Call of Duty.  Not a single parent raised their hand.  Then I asked them to raise their hand if their kid owned Call of Duty.  Again, not a single hand rose.  And here’s the kicker–roughly 70 percent of the parents in the audience have bought Call of Duty for their child and allow him/her to play it.  Am I missing something here?

The fact is, the majority of people in this world go with the tide, including parents.  They see what it is that everyone around them is doing and they make it ok in their mind.   Yet somewhere inside they know it is not ok.  It’s an adult peer pressure of sorts. This “going with the flow” mentality is known as the selective or social consciousness.  We simply make most of our decisions not from sound morals and values but from what we see others around us doing.  So in other words, the majority of parents out there are followers and guess what their children are becoming will be by the time they get to high school.  Guess what all followers have in common that leaders don’t? That’s right, they do what everyone else is doing. And that is just downright dangerous when you’re a teenager.

So no, your pre-school child should not have an ipad.  And no, none of your children, no matter what their age should ever be allowed to sit at a table in a restaurant and spend the entire time buried in a smartphone, ipad or similar device.  And no, your child should never have any type of screen in his/her bedroom and should never have one of these devices in his/her hand when sitting in the back seat of your car. I see this everywhere I go and it is driving me nuts.  Aside from the mental health issues and other issues I addressed earlier, all of this “virtual reality” is destroying “real world” families.  The question I have for you is this – WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?

Come to my next lecture in Hohokus, NJ on 2/5/15 to learn more or visit my website at http://tomkersting.com/speaking/.

 

 

 

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Fox & Friends Segment 11/1/14

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Fox & Friends – Saturday 11/01/14  

This is an appearance I did on Fox & Friends as part or their expert parenting panel, which I appear on regularly.  Today’s topics include:

1. A school accidentally vaccinates the wrong child with the flu vaccination

2. A new movement by parents encouraging their children to call them by their first name.

Parent Panel discussion

 

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Fox & Friends Segment I did on 8/4

FoxBelow is a link to a segment I did on Fox & Friends with regards to the over-stimulation of technology that kids are getting.  Remember, this Fall I will be lecturing to parents about parenting in the age of technology.  It’s a great, interactive discussion.  Please tell your local school reps.  For more information send me an email and I will send you a flyer – tom@tomkersting.com

http://video.foxnews.com/v/3711526237001/crack-for-toddlers-kids-entranced-by-toy-review-videos/#sp=show-clips

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Can Dinner Save My Family

safe_imageHere is a quick promo for my new TV pilot that airs on The Food Network this Saturday at 3:00 and Sunday at 5:30.

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Should first-grader have been suspended for gun with finger gesture?

A 6-year-old first grader was suspended for pointing his finger at another student and saying “pow”.  Does this sound over-the-top to you?  It does to me but there’s more to this story then you think.  Watch my take on this story on Fox & Friends

http://foxnewsinsider.com/2013/01/06/school-reverses-first-graders-suspension-over-gun-gesture/#more-101524

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